Feeling unloved? It can be a raw, hollow feeling to think that nobody loves you in life. However, you may not know how much you are actually loved because of miscommunication or misunderstanding. A lot of the time, we feel unloved because we’ve shut ourselves away from the ability to feel loved. You can open yourself up to those feelings again and encourage the people you love to open up their hearts.
Build your self esteem. A lot of the time, people can love us with all their hearts and we will still feel unloved. Usually, this is because we have a hard time believing that someone else could love us because we can’t love ourselves. If you feel unloved by others, the best place to start is to learn to love yourself first. Build your opinion of yourself by celebrating your positives and embracing your negatives. Stop holding yourself to an ideal of perfection and realize that you are fine just the way you are.
Build your self confidence. Self confidence is an extremely attractive quality in a person. When people see that you think you can take on the world and win, they begin to believe it too (and they love it!). Build your self confidence by taking on challenges in your life, speaking up for yourself, and doing things that make you proud of who you are.
Get help if you need it. Sometimes, our brains get sick. They don’t work quite right and they need a little help feeling better again. If you think that maybe your problems are too big for you to handle, please get help. Like taking medicine for a cold, it’s important to take care of your body by getting the professional help of a doctor. We here at wikiHow love each and every one of you and we want you to be happy. You do what you have to do to make that happen!
Understand what love looks like. Make sure you know what love really looks like. Sometimes, really horrible people in our lives will convince us that love looks different than it actually does. Don’t let them get you confused: love should never hurt, love shouldn’t feel one-sided, and love shouldn’t feel conditional.
Look at how they act. Look at how the person or people that you love act. Do they say mean things to you? Do they physically hurt you? Do they blow you off when you really need them? Do they ignore you when you tell them how you feel? These are bad signs. If, however, they maybe don’t say it but they do show it by being there for you, trying to avid hurting you, and never giving you reason to think they think less of you, they probably love you but are just bad at showing it.
Look at how you act. Are you carrying all the weight in a friendship or relationship? Do you do way more for them than they do for you? Do you shower them in kindness and you’re just met with empty thank yous and no reciprocation? These are bad signs. If, however, you feel like you get out as much as you put in, things are probably okay.
Leave dead weights behind. If someone hurts you (physically or emotionally), or even if they’re just more work than they’re worth, don’t keep them in your life. You don’t need that. Leave them behind and get back out there. Find the friends and relationships that are fulfilling for you because you deserve it!